Divorced parents?

How to split up without messing up the kids from our top American divorce coach

With divorce statistics rising in the UK, more and more children are growing up in two different households.

In America the problem is growing and as usual their lifestyle experts are ahead of the game too.

One lifestyle guru to hit the US market is a 'Divorce Coach' who helps couples get through their split without creating too much unnecessary trauma, in particular for the children involved. Christina McGhee is one such coach.

Christina is an American divorce coach from Houston, Texas.

Read the top tips below that's she's compiled for us on how to stop your children being 'messed up' by the experience of splitting up.

Christina's top tips for divorcing parents

• Avoid conflict for the sake of your children
• Don't fight or argue in front of the children
• If needed use written communication to exchange information
• Do not discuss issues during handovers
• Support your child's relationship with the other parent
• Speak positively about the other parent when possible
• Don't judge, criticize or say bad things about the other parent in front of your children
• Encourage a two home concept
• Avoid placing adult responsibilities on your children
• Children should not be left to decide when, how or if they spend time with the other parent
• Children should not be responsible for communicating important information to the other parent i.e. scheduling changes, information about school functions, doctors appointments etc
• Do not discuss court matters, finances, child support issues or details regarding the divorce with children
• Don't involve children in disagreements between parents
• Try to establish a business like relationship with your ex
• Avoid conversations that address old issues or encourage conflict
• Separate your emotions from the issue
• Stay focused on the children's needs when talking with the other parent
• Put energy into taking care of yourself so you can take good care of your children
• Find some way to resolve your own feelings about the divorce
• Develop a supportive network for yourself
• Address your needs physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually